My Sensitivity Isn’t a Curse, It’s My Superpower

I somehow stumbled onto this website and it got me thinking about the one thing I considered to be my worst trait.. my sensitivity.

I’ve always thought of my sensitivity as somewhat of a curse. Just like the quote from Spiderman “with great power, comes great responsibility”, my sensitivity is special but has got me into some bad situations in the past. For me, it was just another thing added onto the pile of shit that has made me even more different than everyone else around me. It’s been the reason I lost friends, it fractured past relationships and it has made watching a film without crying near impossible!

I’ve always felt everything so deeply; sadness is overwhelming, anger is consuming but happiness has always been transcendent. But one thing I have always loved about this sensitivity is how empathetic I am. Empathy, according to Google, is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another and an Empath, according to the link above, is a person who is capable of feeling the emotions or physical symptoms of others even if they themselves are not going through the same situation or events. I always thought I was weird for being really in tune with others, even people I’ve met once seem to open up to me about their thoughts and feelings. I’ve never minded people talking to me about their problems, I openly tell my friends that I’m always here if they need a vent.. but sometimes I do get so overwhelmed by other people’s troubles that it starts to negatively affect me. Too much negative energy does get me very down and very exhausted.

But this year I’ve started to feel more positive about myself, I’m slowly starting to turn my negatives into positives, starting with my inner sensitivity conflict. “It is estimated that around 15-20 percent of the population is highly sensitive and another 2-3 percent of the population are empaths.” Isn’t that amazing? I’m part of something that is uncommon in other people, I’m starting to realise that being different isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Some people are super in tune with animals, others have a knack for making beautiful gardens, some are brilliant artists… but for me my superpower is my sensitivity. With all the horrid things happening in the world and all the evil people, I think the world needs people with special abilities to spread some happiness and help others.

Thanks for reading! Comment below what your real life superpower is, I’d love to know 🙂


Piercings & Tattoos

My Piercings & Pain Ratings

One of my biggest passions is piercings, even though I don’t have a tonne. I started getting pierced more when I was 17 (when I didn’t need permission from a parent to get them done haha!), then every year or so I got a new piercing. I’ve always taken it quite slow with getting pierced, I make sure my previous piercing is completely healed before I even think of getting another.. healing two piercings or more at a time is something I cannot be dealing with. While my Daith is still healing, I thought I’d make a list of my piercings and their pain ratings to help any of you that may be thinking of getting a certain piercing.



First I’ll start with my right ear as I have some different piercings on each ear. My first piercing was my lobes, which I got when I was 10 years old, they were pierced with a gun (which wasn’t great, but no-one pierced lobes back then with needles 😦 ). I was a HUGE baby when I was young, and I don’t think I even flinched with any of my lobe piercings. There was a slight sting but it was over quick so I didn’t really process them.. Pain Rating: 2/10

My next piercing on this ear was my scaffolding piercing, I had this done when I was 17 for free as my Mum knew the Piercer. Not going to lie, this piercing was no walk in the park.. the Piercer first pierced the top of my ear then the bottom and thread the bar through after that. Unfortunately I had a really heavy handed Piercer who wasn’t delicate when threading the bar through.. this was probably my most painful piercing by far. I think if someone else pierced me I wouldn’t have found it so bad. It was quite temperamental to heal, somedays it wouldn’t hurt then others I would lean on it in my sleep or my hair would get wrapped around it which made it flare up again. Pain Rating: 8/10 

The newest and final piercing I have on this ear is my daith piercing (situated through the piece of cartilage in my outer ear). Unlike a lot of other people I didn’t get the piercing to cure migraines, I’ve just always thought it was pretty. I went to Southampton shopping for the day and a local piercing studio there was doing 2 for 1 piercings, so I got this and my friend got her scaffolding done. This wasn’t the most painful piercing I have had done but it was very uncomfortable, this area has very thick cartilage so it was hard for the needle to go through. I’d say it was more pressure than pain, and it’s so worth it as the piercing is gorgeous. Healing has’t been too bad as I don’t knock it, is abit awkward to wear earphones at first though. Looking at a star shaped ring to go in once it’s healed. Pain Rating: 6/10


I’ve already written about my lobe piercings above so I will start on my helix piercing (piercing in the upper cartilage of the ear). I think my helix piercing was one of the easiest piercings, barely felt any pain apart from a little sting. The only problem I had when healing this piercing was that I kept leaning on it in my sleep for a few weeks after I had it pierced and kept catching it on my hair. Planning to get another helix piercing on top of this one soon though! Pain Rating: 4/10

I have this piercing in my other ear too but I was covering it in the picture, oops.. but the next one I got done was both my tragus’. The tragus piercing is located in the front of the ear canal (the little nubbin poking out slightly), was actually a breeze to get pierced too. There is less nerves in this part of the ear so doesn’t hurt as much, although it is quite thick so I found it was more pressure than pain again. They took a while to heal as most cartilage piercings do and I’d be careful inserting ear plugs etc. Also I do have the habit of sleeping on them weird and them becoming a bit achy even though I’ve had them pierced for 3 years, might not be the same for everyone though. Pain Rating: 5/10

The last piercings I have on my ear are the double forward helix, which are the two piercings just up from the tragus. I had the first piercing for about two years before the second as it did take quite a while to heal as it’s in a thick bit of cartilage. As far as pain goes, the first one hurt worse than the second.. not sure if I was just having a sensitive day or not, but it sucked. The second one wasn’t too bad at all, the healing for that one was worse than the first though, I kept knocking it so it was getting irritated. I also accidentally bought a bar too big for the hole so it got infected.. but it’s been great since I got the purple curved bar put in. Will hopefully get a third piercing on top of the second so it will be a triple forward helix soon! Pain Rating: 7/10


One of my favorite piercings is my belly piercing, I think I got it in October 2011.. I only remember that as England had a weird, late heatwave so we all went to the beach. I can’t actually recall the pain of getting this piercing, I can’t remember it hurting that much, only a pinch like most piercings. The healing process was a tad annoying as I always wear high wasted jeans and shorts so I kept rubbing the piercing, I started to loosely wear a plaster over the bar which helped a tonne and it healed super quick. Pain Rating: 3/10


Now for the only facial(ish) piercings I have. I got my tongue pierced first nearly 3 years ago, I’m lucky my boyfriend came with me as I nearly bailed on getting it done as I was so scared! Luckily the initial piercing of my tongue surprisingly didn’t hurt much, was only a pinch and some pressure.. kind of felt like pushing a needle through a marshmellow. The healing process wasn’t too fun though, I struggled to eat anything for about 3 days and nearly fainted at work as I couldn’t eat anything but mash potato haha! I’ve heard soup is great to have while healing a tongue piercing but unfortunately I wasn’t a big of soup. Although the first 3 days sucked, after that it healed super quick, I remember eating McDonald’s (carefully) on the fifth day. The only problem I have now is that I sometimes swallow the balls on the end of the bar.. I have to remind myself to always tighten them up after meals. Pain Rating: 4/10 (piercing), 7/10 (aftercare).

My last piercing is the septum which I’ve had pierced for just over two years. Again, I’m lucky my boyfriend came with as a nearly bailed on getting it too haha, kinda funny too as he now has his septum pierced and I went with him to get that. The initial piercing wasn’t the best, as the nose is so close to the eyes, mine watered like crazy. It didn’t hurt too bad, was more of a sting than anything and some pressure in my eyes. This was probably one of the easiest piercings to heal, it was easy to clean and I mostly wore it flipped up so I could hide it from my parents and work. The only thing that sucked about this piercing was the smell, I can imagine all piercings smell as they heal but as this was right in my nose I could smell it alot.. this went away quite quickly though and I made sure I gently cleaned my nose with warm water and a cotton bud. Pain Rating: 5/10

My next piercings I’m hoping to get are my last forward helix piercing, to make the triple forward helix and one or both of my rooks (images below):

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Thanks for reading! If you have any questions about piercings or could tell me what to expect from getting my rook pierced then please feel free to comment!



Goodreads 2017 Reading Challenge

2017 was a good year for reading, I went into the year not expecting to whizz through as many books as I did, I only put my goal at 10 books to start. As the year went on a upped my book goal to 15 books, then 20, 25, 30 but finally landing on 32 when it got to end of October/beginning of November, finally finished my last book of the year just before Christmas at 35 books! I surprised myself. I’ve always loved reading but never found the time for it in the last few years, but now I’m in a routine with reading I am thoroughly enjoying my me and book time and will continue to try up my reading count every year.


I’ve lived many lives and read many stories last year, so I’d like to share the stories that captured my heart and some that I think others will enjoy:

The Mortal Instruments series by Cassandra Clare:

This series was the first set of books I read in 2017, I got the box set for Christmas as it was a bloody good bargain. I read all 6 books from January – the beginning of April as I prefer to read books part of a series all together.. although I do have one confession, I watched the City of Bones film before I even heard of the books a few years ago and absolutely loved it. This series is a Young Adult Fantasy series revolving around 15 year old Clary Fray who gets thrust into the world of the Shadowhunters, warriors who banish Demons from Earth, and unlock secrets to her past. All in all, I did really like this series, for me I really started getting into the series from City of Glass as events started to get super interesting. I wanted to give myself a break from the Shadowhunter world but I might look into reading the Infernal Devices trilogy this year.


13 Minutes by Sarah Pinborough:

13 Minutes follows the story of Natasha and Becca during and after the event of Natasha’s near death drowning. I don’t want to give a way too much of the story by going into a detailed synopsis of the plot but I thoroughly enjoyed this book and was a good breather to read a more true to life YA fiction after reading Fantasy for 3 months straight. This book has many twists and turns, although it was somewhat obvious who was involved in Natasha’s near-fateful drowning half way through, it didn’t make the story any less interesting and shocking. I would definitely go back and re-read this book maybe some time this year.


Faceless by Alyssa B. Sheinmel:

This is one of the very few books that had me gripped within the first couple of pages, Faceless follows the story of Maisie after a freak accident leaves her with a partially destroyed face. Maisie receives a face transplant instead of a skin graft and journeys through the rest of the story dealing with her identity. This book was amazing, it was heartfelt and taught me a lot about identity and how we perceive ourselves, I really think everyone should give this book a go.


Countless by Karen Gregory: 

Everyone has a handful of books that changed their life.. Countless is one of mine. I picked this book up accidentally while looking for another book, was somehow like fate found me. This story follows teenager Hedda who is gripped by an Eating Disorder she calls ‘Nia’ while she finds out she is pregnant. Following this shocking reveal, Hedda and Nia then call a truce until the baby is born. Karen Gregory did an incredible job telling Hedda’s story, it was utterly heartbreaking but so very powerful. I loved that Countless didn’t end entirely happy like most books, but there was hope, it felt real and raw. Stories of Eating Disorders are most of the time ended on a super happy note, the character often suddenly beats their ED and it’s happy ever after.. but Karen Gregory did her research and knew that wasn’t the case. Just do me a favour and pick up this book if you want a real, emotional but still hopeful read.


Only Ever Yours by Louise O’Neill:

Only Ever Yours is marketed as The Handmaid’s Tale meets Mean Girls, it takes place in the future where females aren’t birthed naturally, they are manufactured instead. However these girls (called eves) are purely only created for male pleasure.. they either become wives, concubines or teachers to the newer generation of eves. Only Ever Yours follows the life of final year student frieda (the lower case ‘f’ is on purpose) who is trying to finish the year as one of the higher ranking eves to better her chance of being chosen as a wife. However frieda’s best friend isabel starts acting strangely and this sets of a chain of events that has consequences for all the eves. Louise O’Neill is fast becoming one of my favourite authors, she told a haunting and powerful story of society’s never ending pressure on Women. After finishing this book I was left with so many questions about the fate of the characters, I wish there was a sequel but maybe it’s best we never find out as life for these girls isn’t very happy, even after they leave school. A must read for fans of The Handmaid’s Tale wanting a more modern twist.


The Lunar Chronicles by Marissa Meyer:

The Lunar Chronicles is made up of 4 books (Cinder, Scarlet, Cress and Winter) and is basically futuristic fairy tales. The series starts with 16 year old Cyborg mechanic Cinder who is considered a mistake and a burden by society and her adopted family. However she is considered the best mechanic in New Beijing which draws the attention of Prince Kai, this sets of a huge chain of events including a plague epidemic, a vengeful Queen of the Moon, biologically enhanced super soldiers and a legacy waiting to be unearthed. I really loved this series which shocked me as I’m usually not a Sci-Fi type, but the characters were very well thought out and the story was super engaging. I couldn’t put down Cress and Winter, I finished both stories in a few weeks! Recommend to Fairy Tale lovers who like modern (or futuristic) re-tellings.


After the Fire by Will Hill:

After the Fire follows the story of Moonbeam that starts during a police raid of the cult she has been living within. The story is told through Moonbeam telling the FBI all about the cult through flashbacks leading up to the police raid. It’s an absolute chilling read, and is actually loosely based on the true events of the Waco Seige in 1993. After the Fire really sucks you in and questions everything you know about faith and loyalty.


I hope some of you found some books you’d like to read, if anyone has any recommendations then please feel free to comment!